Our new building contractor started work today, finally, after us having gone to the trouble of interviewing several. We interviewed time wasters who gave us horrendous bids for the work that needs to be done as well as a couple of men so obnoxious I would not allow them back in the house! Of course, ALL of the plumbing work that was done by the other outfit has to be completely torn out and cut off at the foundation. Bent pipes, crooked valves, cement in the lines ..... you name it. Today has been spent basically jackhammering up the downstairs floor to get to the drains, which have been installed incorrectly (naturally), and prepping the work area for this job to get completed quickly. These guys work fast and well by the looks of things. They have been here for almost 8 hours and have done more in a day than the last outfit did in 2 weeks. I just want this to be over.
The spouse returned to work reluctantly today. He is done. Wants to retire. Will take any buy-out offer that comes down the pike, or so he says. I can't imagine him retired. He has always worked and worked hard. It really will be the end of a life chapter, the day he leaves The Employer....
Cat continues to suck the life out of me, although I have had an epiphany that she is a narcissist who will never change, no matter what. She has returned to her remote assignment but not before creating some family havoc around here. I have told her that she has to move out. When I approached her about paying rent, she flipped. When I told her that our utility bills are way higher since she moved back home, she didn't want to know. When I told her that she needed to pay her way, she responded with the usual, "Well, no one else had to pay their way!" Meaning that we never collected rent from the other kids when they were at home. There is no 'winning' with Cat. She is never wrong. She knows it all. She is always right. And she has worn out the welcome mat. I have given her until May at the latest to save up some cash and find herself her own place. She will probably find a hapless friend to use, to be a roommate, because I have a feeling that will be the only way she'll be able to move out. Cat cannot afford an apartment by herself, despite earning good money, because of money mismanagement. And I am sure that, eventually, the hapless friend who becomes a roommate will rue the day he/she ever agreed to move in with Cat and will move out in a hail of verbal and physical abuse and accusations, which will be a repeat performance of the last time Cat got a roommate.
I live in hope that Cat will change her ways and begin to see the point of view of the other person but ... it never happens. Cat gets what she wants in any way she can but, in the process, she wears people down and wears the love out. I used to have a friend who was a lot like Cat and, in the end, I was so emotionally conflicted about being around that person that I had to cut them out. They didn't take it so well ...... neither will Cat. I hope it never comes to that but I'm ready.